Ask any credible sexologist about this matter and you’ll only hear four words: Penis size doesn’t matter. But the reality is different – size does matter to a great deal of men.
Why the disconnect? There are many reasons behind it.
Are there any safe, effective ways to increase size? You bet there are, but they don’t involve cheap pills, potions, or patches.
Here’s why sexologists say size doesn’t matter. First of all, men take great pleasure from their penises, regardless of the size. An estimated 95 percent of penises are average size (3 to 5 inches flaccid, 5 to 7 inches erect) and just a very small percent is significantly different (smaller or larger).
Moreover, when women have been surveyed about what they want in a lover, the majority mentioned attractiveness, kindness, caring, listening, sense of humor and shared interests and values while very few mentioned penis size. Finally, sex therapists report that female clients almost never complain about their partner’s size. As a result, most sexologists say size doesn’t matter.
Of course, an extra inch couldn’t hurt. Some women are more open about penis size.
But many men feel quite the shame because of their penis size. They’ve probably compared themselves to the well-endowed studs seen in porn movies and have concluded: mine’s much smaller. They’ve received countless junk emails for enlargement products, as their size wasn’t enough. They must have seen casual sex personal ads looking for men with huge ones.
In addition to this, men are convinced that size is the key to women’s orgasm since a big penis means deeper penetration and more vagina stretching. When you put all these together, you realize that the main message that is constantly being sent out there for men is that hot sex equals having a huge penis. Of course, an extra inch couldn’t hurt.
If you want to be bigger:
Forget enlargement products
This is a two sided coin, since the lengthening surgery cuts the ligament that makes your erection stand up. You get an extra inch but erections no longer salute, not to mention how expensive the procedure is (around $15 000). Most often, you’ll need manual stimulation to be able to perform. Also, girth enhancement implies taking fat from the buttocks and getting it injected under the penis skin. No erection problem here, but you might often end up with a lumpy, deformed penis that will make you miss the old one.
You’ve probably heard this advice a million times, but did you know smoking is related to your penis size? Smoking narrows the arteries, including those that carry blood into the penis. Less blood means a smaller penis, since size depends on the amount of blood in the organ. Smoking limits blood flow into the organ, which makes it smaller.
Exercising improves arterial health, allowing more blood to be pumped into the penis. However, it’s the whole body exercise I’m talking about – exercising the penis itself is pointless. The sex media sometimes refers to the penis as the “love muscle,” implying that certain exercises can buff it up, like they do for biceps. That’s a lie and you should know there are different kinds of muscle tissues. The penis contains a smooth muscle – it’s not the kind that gets bigger with exercise.
• Eat less meat and cheese and focus more on fruits and vegetables. We’ve already established that your penis size is affected by the amount of blood that is pumped into the organ. A diet that is high in animal fat raises your cholesterol level, which narrows the arteries, including those that carry blood into the penis. Try going a day or two a week without meat or cheese and eat five to eight daily servings of fruits and vegetables. They contain antioxidants that help keep the arteries open, and a bigger penis is not the only positive effect of a healthy diet.
• Lose the pot belly – Exercising regularly, eating less meat and cheese and focusing more on vegetables and fruits helps men lose weight, which also helps the penis size. A big belly encroaches on the base of the penis, making the organ look smaller. When you lose abdominal fat, you get a nice visual effect that makes your penis look larger.
Embrace meditative relaxation
The arteries the carry blood into the penis are surrounded by muscle tissue. When men feel anxious (including worrying about penis size), these muscles contract and constrict the arteries. Constricted arteries lead to a reduced blood inflow and size. In addition, anxiety triggers the “fight or flight” reflex that sends blood away from the central body, including the penis, and out toward the limbs for escape or self-defense.
On the other hand, as men deeply relax, these muscles also relax and allow the arteries to open to their maximum, maximizing blood flow and boosting size. When no longer stressed, the body flow returns to normal and invades the central body, penis included. Erection drugs actually work by relaxing these muscles.
You’ve probably noticed that in chilly locker rooms, your penis seems to shrink – just like swimming in colder water. But after a hot shower, it seems to look larger. That is because warmth is relaxing for the body and increases blood inflow and penis size. Before sex, bathe in hot water or shower with your lover.
Beyond these approaches, here are two more ways to temporarily enhance size:
These rubber donut-shaped devices tightly encircle the erect penis. Typically used to help maintain erection, they also provide a small, temporary size boost. Flaccid or erect, blood circulates in and out of the penis. A ring restricts outflow somewhat by compressing the vein that carries the blood out of the organ. Once you take the ring off, the organ comes to its regular size, so don’t expect miracles. Any effect is modest and temporary.
These plastic tubes create a partial vacuum around the penis. The vacuum effect draws blood into the organ, resulting in a temporary size enhancement. Models differ, but all include a plastic tube and a pump operated by a hand bulb. You squeeze the bulb, which evacuates air from the tube, drawing a little extra blood into the penis. Just remember, the effect of most penis pumps is also modest and temporary unless you are using a high quality, effective hydraulic pump.
Now that you know how to be all you can be, guys, I’m here to explain that men who are hung up on penis size are clueless about good sex. Any size penis can bring its owner great pleasure and can satisfy a partner.
On top of this, the best way to erotically impress women is to give them pleasure without using your penis. Only 25 percent of women are able to have an orgasm during vaginal intercourse no matter what the man’s size, so for the vast majority of women, vaginal stretching and deep penetration are not direct routes to pleasure and orgasm. Most women need and appreciate a gentle, patient, sensual clitoral stimulation with fingers, tongue, or toys.